Single Mom Dating: Better Luck Next Time
Jacqui Stewart of Single Parent Retreat writes for SpeedDate.com:
A friend and I are out to dinner. Afterwards, she decides to stop in at a Wawa. Some guy decides to hit on her. So, she informs him that she is in a relationship. But…She has a friend who is single. (Read the single friend is ME). I’m trying to get out there, get to know people and meet potential dates. She screens him for me in text. Afterward, she gives me his number, and then gives him some info and me some info, and I feel interested. Why not? I decide to text him and introduce myself and see what happens.
We didn’t talk much during the day (he works at night.) We meet at a Wawa, and at first my thought was, this guy is SO not my type. I like the geeky looking guys. But, I figure, I’ll sit and talk and try to get to know him. So, he gets a coffee, but the Latte machine is down and I choose not to get anything. We go outside and start chatting. Asked if I smoked? Nope. Is that a deal breaker? Sure is! What kind of music do I like? Anything but country. Well, we’re batting 300 here! He smoked and liked country. What was my friend thinking?
He asked if I wanted to get into his car as it was drizzling. We move to the car, but I kept my hand on the door, just in case. He asked questions and as I was answering, he would interrupt with comments of “your eyes are stunning!” “I love your voice!” “You have a beautiful smile!” I say thank you and as I couldn’t think of anything to say, I smiled. He asked more questions, seemingly immune to my disinterest. As I am answering it, he interrupts me again by running his fingers through my hair saying how beautiful my hair is!
Whoa. Ok, first of all, this is NOT a date! We’re meeting to see if there is anything there. What part of me leaning AWAY from him gave him the impression that I was interested? Time to go! So, I smile, look at that time and say, I have to go. Again, clearly missing the boat, he asks for a hug, and I relent and give him one of those one-armed hugs. You all know the one, right? Yeah. Apparently I was one of the best huggers he’s met. At this point I’m done, I’m NOT going to bed with him, so could he please stop trying with all the sweet pillow talk!?! THEN.. As I say, I really have to go, he tries to kiss me. Ick. Again, NOT A DATE!! I know that some people don’t have to be on a date to do this, and I’ll admit, I’ve done it. But, I was completely NOT interested and didn’t give this guy any sign that I was. I ducked my head down, and he got my nose. I’m out.
He texted me later and said it was great meeting me and he couldn’t wait to see me again. Yeah, not so much. Oh! I forgot to add, during our get to know each other he asks me “do you like intimacy?” Ummm, really? Yikes!
So much for getting back into the scene…better luck next time!
About the author: Jacqui Stewart is a Single Mom who works fulltime as well as works as a Blogger, Freelance Writer, Product Reviewer and Social Media Consultant. She is the founder and writer/reviewer of www.singleparentretreat.com among several other blogs. She likes to stay busy when her daughter is not with her.
Oh Jacqui!! I guess there is one nice thing to being older and dating. You know all the tricks! Glad you got out of there. Could he be more obvious?
Thank you Fadra! Yes, being older and dating, I definitely know what to look for and I don’t plan on settling for less that what I am looking for. I don’t expect perfection of course! Just not some cheesy pick up lines that may have worked when we were in High School or College! LOL.
I felt bad about the whole story and hope to avoid creating any kind story myself. I,m single, searching and not perfect (no one is) but I believe I,ll match with the right woman in time. I don,t look for a queen but plan my mate like she is important to me.I feel like any good relationship will be a team effort. That has been the thing to destroy a relationship. I think people forget (it would not be my relationship, but would be our relationship) this belief and then fall apart. I look forward to having a partner in life. Anybody else looking for a partner?
Tim,
Was definitely not looking for anyone to feel bad about this story. I felt bad, but, there is a time and date when you try to make the moves he was making. It definitely should not have been when we were just meeting to see if we clicked. I felt bad blowing him off, but, he didn’t seem to take the hints. Leaning away, not returning the compliments.
You are certainly correct. No one is perfect. If they were, I’d be more worried. I am sure that you will meet your perfect match. There is someone out there for everyone. As I indicated here, I was trying to get back out there in the dating world. Sometimes you meet frogs, other times you meet princes. Or, in your case, princesses. I am still looking and I know my match is out there as well. Just put yourself out there. Even if someone doesn’t look like your type, make sure to ask anyway. Who knows? Maybe you will develop a new type that you become attracted to. Again, as indicated, that is why I stayed with this guy to talk. To see how things turned out.
Good luck to you!